Forgive and Forget: The Story with My Ex-Husband

I have been now divorced for 7 years, and I recently decided to pursue the annulment of the Catholic marriage. Throughout this process, I have faced the fear of not being able to start a new family and then the guilt and embarrassment for being so immature in the past. But I overcame all that thanks to the Grace of God and the love and care of friends and family.

This December, I had my appointment at the Ecclesiastical Tribunal to start the demand for the annulment. The lady was so encouraging, telling me the importance of now start thinking on my future and the man I want God to send me. She was joking about me writing a letter to God this Christmas asking for the 5 C’s: Catholic, Committed, with Cash, Car, and Check Book.

But then, she mentioned the unavoidable: contacting my ex-husband so that the process can go smoothly and avoid any delays in the process.

After a few years of the separation and then divorce, I had managed to forgive him and myself for all that happened, but had never thought of getting back in touch with him. I had disappeared from everyone related to him all these years. But committed as I am to getting this annulment, I started searching for ways to get his contact information.

It took contacting 4 of his friends. All of them were somehow surprised to hear from me, but also glad for it. It was so nice to hear from all of them, just like time had not passed. Everyone was very helpful and supportive, which was a great teaching from God as I thought that people had taken parts when we separated.

I then talked to my ex-husband, and it was down to business. I informed him on the process, ask for some information, and then wished happy holidays. It was that! It was nothing… no emotions, no pain, no anger, just nothing… and I’m so thankful to God from freeing myself from any negative feeling related to him.

This is the first time that I have consciously forgiving and forgetting. It’s liberating to know, for sure, that I have gone through this process in such a positive way. Now, I’m certain that the Lord has put this mission in front of me (getting the annulment) because He has great things in store for me.

2011 will be a great year: a year of liberation & new beginnings!